As I begin to write this blog entry, it is 11:12 pm on Saturday, August 18, 2012. As I write this, I am sitting in my family room tapping my fingers onto the keyboard of my iPad. As I write this, I am so very sad and on the verge of tears. I know I will cry, and I will need to take a break or two as I construct this blog entry.
Earlier today my wife, daughter and I said our final goodbyes to our beloved Shiba Inu dog, Bandit.
Bandit was part of my family for about seven months before my daughter was born. He was born July 29, 1996 and my wife and I saw him for the first time about 5 weeks later. We went to the home of the breeder we got Bandit from and spent several hours with him, his 2 siblings and his mother. What a great day! I couldn’t wait to take him home, but that would have to wait for several more weeks.
The day to bring our new family member home soon arrived and we were on the road and heading out to pick him up. What an incredibly handsome boy he was. This little ball of fur and sharp teeth was ours. We said our goodbyes to Debbie, the lady we got Bandit from, and saddled up for the return trip to our home. My wife, who was a few months pregnant, put Bandit in her lap and stroked his fur as I drove. I tried to sneak in a few strokes of his fur myself, but I needed to keep my eyes on the road and my hands on the steering wheel.
Bandit was soon curled up and asleep in my wife’s lap and I knew the bond that they would share would be stronger than any other. What I didn’t know until months later was that my bond with him was the third strongest in our household. While curled in my wife’s lap, Bandit was laying next to our developing daughter, listening to her beating heart. My daughter and Bandit had bonded before she was born and I realized this the day we brought her home from the hospital.
No sooner was my baby daughter in the front door before Bandit made it known that he was in charge of guarding and protecting her. My wife and I worried that our rambunctious puppy might inadvertently scratch, nibble on or bark at our daughter. Nothing was further from the truth and we soon knew that their was nothing to worry about. Bandit was so sweet and very aware of our new baby girl. As soon as we placed her in her baby swing, Bandit came right over and sniffed her. Then he lay on the floor in front of her swing and kept watch. Never once did he do any of the things we had feared he might.
In my blog entry about the death of our other Shiba Inu, Fuji, I wrote that my memories of Fuji formed a timeline of my life and my family’s as well. The timeline is much longer with Bandit. 16 years he was part of our family. He saw us through three houses, several career changes, happy times including the birth of our daughter and sad times including the deaths of my father, our two cats, and his sister, Fuji. He also was there for our daughter’s late night baby bottles, diapers, potty training and learning to walk. He also witnessed many first days of a new school year, dirty dishes, exploding Teriyaki sauce bottles, and my family acting like fools on more than one occasion.
Was he an integral part of my life? Yeah, he certainly was. Was he good at keeping a secret? Yeah, he definitely was. As far as I know, he never spilled the beans on me and he knew many of my secrets. Did I talk to him? Yeah, I have to admit that I did on more than a few occasions. Just like I did with his sister, Fuji, and his kitty brother and sister, George and Jazzy. Were there times that he made me angry? Yeah, there were times that he certainly did.
One such time was when he was a tiny puppy and my wife and I put him in his pen when we left our house to run errands. I thought we had left him plenty of toys to chew on, but evidently that wasn’t good enough. He chewed on the linoleum floor and managed to destroy a fairly large area, right down to the wooden sub floor. I believe that little episode ended up costing about $250. I had to call in a floor repair guy and also purchase a sheet of 3/4″ plywood that I cut down and used for the floor of his pen. I made the mistake of covering the plywood in a felt like material so he wasn’t laying on plywood. He destroyed that as well.
I tried to be mad at him, but he was so darned handsome and personable that I just couldn’t stay angry. He was a sweet dog and once he grew out of his puppy bad manners, I rarely had any issues with him. He was a star and he knew it. He always got attention when we would go on walks. Everyone had to stop and take notice of Bandit. “What kind of dog is that?” was something I grew accustomed to hearing. I also heard, “Is that a fox you have on the leash?”. I guess he kind of did resemble a fox, but I always saw a family member when I looked at him.
Bandit was a constant in my and my family’s life for 16 years. He lived about one year longer than the upper end of life expectancy for his breed. About 6 months ago, I started reconciling the fact that he would not live forever and I knew the day would be coming where I would have to say goodbye to my companion.
In his younger days, Bandit was the epitome of what a Shiba should look like. The breeder we got him from was always commenting on how perfect he was whenever she saw him. Many times she commented how badly she wanted to show him in competitions. We never entered him in any competitions as we never thought of him as a show dog. He was like our child and was a member of our family.
The Shiba breed is considered a hunting breed and is very active, alert and well muscled. About a year ago, we noticed that he was losing his muscle and his coordination was subsiding as well. As time went by, Bandit began to slow down and was showing signs of aging. He didn’t have the energy to play like he once did and he started just simply looking old and frail. Heart braking to see a once mighty warrior succumb to Father Time. But it happens to all of us eventually no matter how hard we try to fight it.
The past month or two has been very difficult for me. The dog that use to effortlessly leap onto the couch was slipping away. Bandit would attempt to clear the edge of the couch, but would just get hung up a little with his hind feet and slip back onto the floor. He also had a pronounced curve to his back and his rear end dipped. The tail that had majestically corkscrewed over his back was now limp and lifeless. His piercing eyes were now sinking into his skull. His once vibrant red fur was graying. In short, the muscular Adonis of days gone by was now reduced to a shuffling old man.
I spent more time with Bandit than anyone else and lately I had found myself staring at him as he tried to do any number of things. In the last few weeks, he had a hard time settling down and finding a comfortable spot to rest. My heart sank whenever I witnessed him attempting to achieve things that once were second nature. I had to accept what my eyes and mind were telling me, no matter what my heart said.
I had known for several weeks that the decision to peacefully and humanely say goodbye to my partner in crime, my confidante, and a valued family member had to be made. My wife’s heart could not allow herself to see and accept what her brain had to know. Intense love of a family member has a way of blinding oneself to reality. I don’t fault her for her inability to recognize the obvious. She just simply loved so strongly. Nothing more… Nothing less.
My wife and I had talked with Bandit’s doctor a month ago and detailed what we were seeing and what our thoughts were concerning Bandit’s health and longevity. We didn’t bring him into the vet’s office because Bandit would get very stressed whenever we’d go and I didn’t think subjecting him to that stress was something I wanted to do to him. We talked and left with an approximate life expectancy of perhaps a few months based solely on what we told her. Of course, the vet said she would have a much greater understanding of things if she would have seen Bandit.
Bandit continued to shows signs of decline and my wife finally made an appointment for Bandit to see the doctor on Saturday, August 18. The vet took one look at Bandit and knew he didn’t look good. Her examination of him and the fact that Bandit had lost a fair amount of weight confirmed that the end had arrived. As the doctor was talking, I looked at my wife and she was on the verge of an emotional meltdown. Knowing that the doctor was talking facts now and not hypotheticals was what finally broke through her wall of denial.
The decision was made to euthanize our dear, sweet boy.
We left Bandit at the vet’s office so they could insert a catheter into his leg to be used to administer the meds to end his life. We drove home and broke the devastatingly sad news to our daughter and to see if she wanted to be there at the end. She did. We headed back to spend our final moments with Bandit. Many tears and many Kleenex. Finally, the time was at hand.
The doctor came in to give him a sedative but she and a vet tech were having difficulty straightening his leg out to gain access to the catheter. It was suggested that my wife hold Bandit in her arms and Bandit settled down as she held him while the meds were delivered. How fitting. She had held Bandit in her lap as he came into our lives and now she held him as he was exiting our lives.
A quick listen with a stethoscope confirmed that Bandit was gone.
He will never be forgotten.
I made a short slideshow of Bandit that I invite anyone reading these words to watch. Click on the link below and have your speakers turned on.
July 29, 1996 to August 18, 2012
Until next time,
Mark